the marriage episode- 24 things I do

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Welcome to 2023 with Life Coach Franzannie, I'm your host Franzannie. As a coach, when you're feeling stuck or unsure I help you figure out how to get out of your own way so you can get what you want through one on one individual coaching sessions. Coaching is all about forging the best path for you through self-reflection and the best way I know how to "show" you how to do that in your life is to live by example. So each week I pick a theme and Tuesday through Friday I'll pick different topics I want to work through 

Coaching gave me the courage to go after the life of my dreams and take the action steps- I quit my job, sold my house and started my coaching practice.

Four years in, things are taking a lot longer feel way harder than I could've imagined.

So my theme this year is to Find What Feels Good so I can be obsessed with my life now AND so I'll stick to it. In this podcast, I invite you on this journey with me 

Happy Thursday, February 23-This week we're talking about what's going well and how I got here. I wanted to examine the things I do well and learn from them so I can apply them to things that I feel aren't going well- next week's theme

Today I want to talk about my marriage...  

So-why do I feel like it's going well

• he's my dream come true
• it's so much fun
• i check with him consistently
• i feel very much in love
• i can be myself
• i'm sure of him

And how did I get here? 

1. commitment to personal development on both ends- what does that mean? taking responsibility for my emotions- like learning to control my anger, understanding my triggers
2. trust that he's doing the work too
3. communication- we talk about everything, check in, get on the same page
4. caring how i make him feel/wanting to make him feel good
5. wanting him to feel loved and good about himself- do my best to love him the way he wants to be love- by asking him how he wants to be loved
6. focus on the good- MVP list/gratitude/lots of "thank you's"
7. things bad- consider it a one-time offense- makes it easy to forget past offenses
8. consider timing/outcome- is this the best time to talk about this? what do i want from this convo/how will i get it
9. respecting his boundaries
10. being honest about what i want/need encouraging the same
11. not assuming/allowing each other room to grow/asking him what he needs from me
12. find creative ways to tell him i love him
13. spend time together- talking/having fun
14. consider him in most things- 
15. fights- try to reframe it as us against a problem instead of me vs him
16. keep it fun/light
17. stay interested in him/in his interests- cars and money
18. flirt/compliment
19. romantic
20. don't talk trash
21. share our dreams/get on the same page/talk a lot of big things through before-set expectations
22. constantly learning about relationships
23. don't take/ask for advice from many people- specific criteria/people  
24. share with others/community/learn from other couples

my biggest takeaway...

The more I think, the more things come up- it's like I created a relationship toolbox

I prioritize this and consider it more than I realized- treat it like a special gift

how can you get coaching around this?

if you want a good relationship, it starts with you. a coaching session can help you figure out what steps you can take to create a more ideal relationship now

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